Where are the Churches in the Singles Scene ?
I believe some of the bigger churches should take the initiative in holding singles functions.
I go to Times Square Church once in a while and they have a HUGE Singles attendance.
A few years ago I attended a 3 day singles seminar followed by group discussions which was great.
At the end of the 3 days one Pastor thanked everyone for attending and mentioned they had several people inquiring as to whether this singles function would become a regular thing and he said there were no plans to continue it.
Not surprisingly he was met with quite a few "BOOS" and "AHHH"s.
Times Square Church has in the recent months started a 20 -30s ministry although.
What about Smithtown Gospel Tabernacle ?
Why is it that churches neglect the over 30 crowd ?
Is it because most Pastors are married at an early age and just can't relate ?
I will give my Pastors a lot of credit for letting us start a singles Bible Study and one of our single Pastors leads the Bible Study,Praise God !
I go to Times Square Church once in a while and they have a HUGE Singles attendance.
A few years ago I attended a 3 day singles seminar followed by group discussions which was great.
At the end of the 3 days one Pastor thanked everyone for attending and mentioned they had several people inquiring as to whether this singles function would become a regular thing and he said there were no plans to continue it.
Not surprisingly he was met with quite a few "BOOS" and "AHHH"s.
Times Square Church has in the recent months started a 20 -30s ministry although.
What about Smithtown Gospel Tabernacle ?
Why is it that churches neglect the over 30 crowd ?
Is it because most Pastors are married at an early age and just can't relate ?
I will give my Pastors a lot of credit for letting us start a singles Bible Study and one of our single Pastors leads the Bible Study,Praise God !
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Permalink Reply by Greg on
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God Bless the 50 and over folks !! They are all awesome men and women of God. I want to be kind to them all, being I will be there one day.
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Permalink Reply by Elizabeth on -
I agree with you that Time Square Church should have singles event. That is the church that I attend.
I did contact Time Square Church about this problem. I feel there needs to be more place for Christian Singles to meet. I know of a church in NJ that hold singles event. The name of the church is Calvary Chapel Old Bridge. I have sister who attend this church she stated that they have singles event.
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Permalink Reply by Helen on -
Joey.....Grace and peace to you!
Thank you for warning me of chuches out there that have "singles events" with an attendance of people mostly 50 and over, that are boring! OUCH!! No hard feelings really, but I'm a 56 yo women, who is young at heart! lol.....
I have just recently started going out, and was at Samantha's last Sat. I will be attending a singles concert at a church in Lindenhurst tonight. And after what you mentioned, I will be looking out for those types of churches, because I surely want to avoid them.
Greg thank you for your comment. Believe me when I say that one is as young as we feel......
I believe I am enjoying my life and walk with the Lord even more now than I was at the age of 30+40.
Actually, up until this discussion, I still considered myself a middle aged person, hmmmm, Oh well.........
live and learn, yes?............
God Bless you all!!!
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Permalink Reply by Kim on -
I don't think we (singles) are viewed as a priority. It's not that we're not important to church leadership, it's just that--by and large--they're unaware of our needs. (I'm not sure what the deal is with TSC.)
Maybe it's up to us (individually) to do something about it. A friend of mind from church recently talked to our pastor about the need for a singles ministry and the lack of ministry for singles. The result is that now we have a singles ministry and we are having a blast so far! I feel it will only get better. Just a suggestion.
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Permalink Reply by Diana on -
Hi Kim,
And what church is it that you attend? I attend a very big church and we don't have much of a singles ministry :-(
Your Sister in Christ,
Diana
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Permalink Reply by Wendy Jennifer on -
Chris, I agree with you. I feel churches should have more single events and support groups as well. It is a safer avenue for single women to meet men. Also I wish churches would not ignore the over 30 crowd. Many churches have single groups for people over 50. I tried to join one but was told I was too young. I explained that I am 47, and one of the leaders laughed. "Don't rush the aging process," he replied. He is a delightful man and felt I was teasing him about my age. I'm 47. This church I'm speaking of is wonderful on so many levels and I can't say enough good. But I was only 3 years away and they go on great trips like spiritual retreats, museums and what can I say, I love that stuff. Maybe if we write to churches or if some members over 30 form their own singles groups at church. It is better than the internet dating garbage and so much safer. Plus I feel such groups would help with social skills as well, especially for women like myself who dated at a time when things were simpler.
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Permalink Reply by Diana on
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Hi Wendy,
I totally agree with you. It seems like there's not much going on for us 40 somethings. I am a very "young spirited" 44 year old woman and there just doesn't seem like there's any "life" in the single life of the single Christian. And I tried those "Christian" internet sites and let me tell you, it is nothing more than the devil's playground. I met someone who was trying to scam me for money. No thank you...
Maybe, I'll just start my own group...
Be blessed my sister,
Diana
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Permalink Reply by Vickie on -
Sorry to hear Diana what happened to you and I could not agree with you more. I do not trust too many of those sites. This site eyoked is pretty nice.
Nice meeting you.
VIckie
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Permalink Reply by Carl on -
Hi Diana, I've had the same experience myself on some of the "christian" date sites. Their profile says they are in the US and when they contact you they give a different email and then you find out their in Ghana or some other country. One of them did this first time we chatted, "guess what, it's my birthday, I'd like you to send me some money", that ended it. My small church is mostly married, the few singles much younger than me. I don't know why it's so difficult for us, I just pray God will move. He said "It's not good for man to be alone". I take it to mean male and female, just like when we were created, "male and female" Gen 1:28. If you do start a group let me know, it's been a while, but when i lived in b'klyn, I helped plan some events and would like to help if needed. I'll add you as a friend here too. God Bless!
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Permalink Reply by Roger on -
Hi Diana,
I am a Young Spirted Christian man myself and know what you mean about there being a void for adult Christian fellowship. I have been barraged by people with fake profiles on Christian websites trying to scam money from me. That is the devil trying to turn something from the good intentioned bad! I recently found out that there is a new singles ministry in Smithtown Gospel Tabernacle that goes by the name of CSWAM(Christian Singles With a Mission). They have tried to get me to some of their meetings but I have been busy with my children on the ocassions they have met. They have started a coffee house that meets once or twice a month, they had a BBQ on the 4th of July and they they are meeting at a car show July 25th. Personally, I just had a camping weekend with families from my church last weekend and I am taking my kids for a week to Word of Life Chritian camp upstate NY July 18-25 but hope to get to some of their events after that. They have a website that gives their events(http://cswam.webs.com/) and it has a calendar. Let me kow if you get to go to their events.
Blessings,
Roger :-)
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Permalink Reply by Carl on
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A Suggestion-
From reading the comments on this topic it looks like there's very little happening for us singles. At the first church I went to back in B'klyn we had a really nice group of singles. There was no singles ministry there, we just got together and did things, from Memorial day, 4th of July picnics, bbq's, to trips to action park great adventure, horseback riding, things like that. that was from '80 to '86, younger days for me. My suggestion is this, get an e-mail out to all on this site and see if ther would be interest in an E-yoked summer event at a park or beach. Be agreat opportunity for us singles to meet and possibly see God bring people together, that's what were talking about , right? I'd really enjoy getting together with those I know on this site and getting to be friends with others. I'll pray for this, I hope you will too!
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